Bully, the Bullied, and the Not-So Innocent Bystander - Softcover

Coloroso, Barbara

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9781443420297: Bully, the Bullied, and the Not-So Innocent Bystander

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ISBN 10: 1443420298 ISBN 13: 9781443420297

Publisher: Collins, 2015

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The groundbreaking #1 national bestseller from Barbara Coloroso, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators.

First published over a decade ago, The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander quickly became the definitive guide to bullying prevention and intervention, providing real solutions for a problem that affects young people all over the world. Now, in this thoroughly updated and expanded book, Coloroso helps you recognize the characteristic triad of bullying: the bully who perpetrates the harm; the bullied, who is the target (and who may become a bully); and the not-so-innocent bystanders―peers or siblings who either watch, participate in the bullying or look away, and adults who see bullying as “teasing,” not tormenting, and as “boys will be boys” or as “ girl drama,” not the predatory aggression that it is. In this book you will learn:

What bullying is and what it isn’t
The four ways and three means of bullying
Technology resources and solutions to deal effectively with both online and offline bullying
Differences and similarities between boys and girls who bully
Differences between telling and tattling, reporting and ratting; teasing and taunting; flirting and sexual bullying
How to read the subtle cues and clues that a young person is being bullied
What not to do and what you can do to help the one who is bullied
Seven steps to hold accountable and reform someone who bullies
Four abilities that protect young people from succumbing to a bully
Why zero-tolerance policies can equal zero thinking
Why contempt, not anger, drives bullying, and how to confront this in bullies―and in our culture
How young people can become a potent force as active witnesses―standing up for their peers, speaking out against cruelty and taking responsibility for what happens among themselves

Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and restorative justice, Barbara Coloroso offers practical and compassionate solutions and gives parents, caregivers, educators and―most of all―young people the tools to break this cycle of violence.

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The groundbreaking international bestseller from Barbara Coloroso, one of the world’s most trusted parenting educators

First published over a decade ago as The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, Barbara Coloroso’s trailblazing book quickly became the definitive guide to bullying prevention and intervention, providing real solutions for a problem that affects young people all over the world. Now, in this thoroughly updated and expanded edition, Coloroso helps you recognize the characteristic triad of bullying: the bully, who perpetrates the harm; the bullied, who is the target (and who may become a bully); and the not-so-innocent bystanders—peers or siblings who either watch, participate in the bullying, or look away; and adults who see bullying as “teasing,” not tormenting, and as “boys will be boys” or as “girl drama”—not the predatory aggression that it is. In this book you will learn:

What bullying is and what it isn’t
The four ways and three means of bullying
Technology resources and solutions to deal effectively with both online and offline bullying
Seven steps to hold accountable and reform someone who bullies
Four abilities that protect young people from succumbing to a bully
How young people can stand up, speak out, and take responsibility

Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and restorative justice, Barbara Coloroso offers practical and compassionate solutions and gives parents, caregivers, educators, and—most of all—young people the tools to break this cycle of violence.

About the Author:

Barbara Coloroso is the author of the international bestseller Kids Are Worth It! and Parenting Through Crisis and is an acclaimed speaker on parenting, teaching, conflict, resolution, and grieving. Featured in Time, the New York Times, and on many radio and television shows, she lives with her husband in Littleton, Colorado.

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